Today we have another blog post from Geoff Frewin. You guys enjoyed the first one so much we thought we'd treat you to another and Geoff has really delivered. Check him out on Instagram @geoffrewin
‘Scegli saggiamente I tuoi amici’ - ‘Choose your friends wisely’
‘Ponder for a long time whether you shall admit a given person to your friendship; but when you have decided to admit him, welcome him with all your heart and soul. Speak as boldly with him as loyal, as you will make him loyal.’ Seneca
Out of the darkness I can only stand but alone, for I have seen true despair, I have truly walked in the shadows of Death, and beaten Satan on many occasion. Can I then afford to waste or lose precious time, with those who don’t seek virtue and integrity, who are happy to fall at the first hurdle… the answer must be no!
Are you associating with those who are bad for you, not because there is any value but because it is easy, you know it, your friends know it. They don’t need or want to sacrifice anything, especially a life of ease and contentment that would take effort and possible failure.
Is it not true if I stay in an unhealthy relationship with you, yes you, that I am weak willed and indecisive yet can content myself with pointless martyrdom!
It is a good thing, not a selfish thing, to choose people who are good for you, it is valuable to ensure that you befriend these people, whose lives would improve if they saw your life improve.
There has always been a need for risk takers in society, for the daring, the charismatic and at times the deceptive, these are people like myself:
Who don’t need to be liked, who don’t need to belong, who have no need for validation or affirmation, and aren’t afraid to challenge the prevailing norms.
They are Psychopaths (Thanks to my good friend Dr. Kevin Dutton, The Good Psychopath Guide to Success)
Michelangelo’s David cries out to its observer ‘’You could be more than you are’’ When you do not aspire upward, you reveal the inadequacy of the present and the promise of the future.
Don’t think it is easier to surround yourself with good healthy people than with bad unhealthy people. It’s not. It requires strength and daring to stand up near such a person. Have some humility, have some courage, use your judgement and protect yourself from too uncritical compassion and pity. Make friends with people who want the best for you.
12 Rules for life: Jordan B Peterson.
I now have very few close friends, some I have never met, but they know and ‘when you know you know.’